If you went to bed last night with one child somewhere in the universe, that you have been responsible for, then you are a father. It may be a child you fathered (sperm donor) or a child you fathered (supervision or support donor).
If you woke up this morning and you had nothing to give that child or that child gave you nothing, guess what, you are still a father. If the mother of that child woke up this morning and gave you nothing and did nothing for you, guess what, you are still a father. If your father or mother does not call you or does nothing for you today, guess what, you are still a father.
If you get up this morning and your smart phone does not make a sound from whatsapp or Facebook, or twitter or snapchat or instagram or from a text message, FROM yuh CHILD, guess what, you are still a father. If the car have no gas, or there is no car, no stove, no fridge cause it conk out, no washing machine, no dryer, no meat, no corned beef, peanut butter, bread, BUT yuh have a CHILD guess what, you are a father.
If your woman leave yuh, you children leave yuh, yuh dog leave yuh, your cyat leave yuh, yuh rat leave yuh, guess what, you are still a father. If you HAVE a CHILD, but yuh foot cut off or yuh foot cyar stand up (double entendre) you are still a father.
If yuh thought you was put here to reproduce and you have been sowing your seeds like if you auditioning for the title of father of the nation and you not, or you trying to be the father of a nation and you should not, guess what, ONCE yuh have ah CHILD, you are still a father.
If you taking young boys and trying to make them men, but they not living to be men, yea, some people might not agree, but you are still a father or as the say “faddah”. If you killing young boys and depriving them of being fathers, yes, you are still a father or as they say “faddah”. Even not to father is fathering, sad but true. They are whom Fr. Harvey was referring to.
Many a father do not realize that in their absence they are being as much a father as in their presence, or is it the other way around? There are men who have never been a sperm donor but are father’s. They walking right amongst us.
You think I lieing, as it was (said) in the beginning (of this piece), “If you went to bed last night with one child somewhere in the universe you are a father. It may be a child you fathered (sperm donor) or a child you fathered (supervision or support donor)”. If you think I lieing, ask God, whatever you call him, wherever he is, whomever you perceive him to be. Ent wherever you are and whoever you are he is your father, THE FATHER. No matter how long you eh see him, you does call him when you need. He doh always answer when you want or how you want, but you dey living in hope, on a prayer. Just like with yuh father.
If you went to bed last night…….as “father” and you wake up “in the name of the father” then all that is not can still become. There is no ideal condition, time, place, age, location, position (economic or sexual) to become a father (although I have heard many a hypothesis about the sexual position thing). The father success stories may not all be publicly told ( we are a shy bunch), but the world is replete with examples of boy’s, men, fathers, who have triumphed in any and all circumstances. Men… lets find them, be them.
To my father, father’s, mother, brothers, sisters, Mom, Stumpy, the Barber Shop Crew and all those who have fathered me I say thanks. It takes nothing and everything to be a father.
Happy Father’s Day